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May 14, 2013


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AWESOME! WONDERFUL! FANTASTIC! Carrie I'm standing on the chair clapping and cheering! Tanesha's post and now your post...you two have said it all in this public forum...oh and how I have thought all of these things, said them to myself, said them to a friend but never had the nerve to publicly say them...you are my heroine! LOVE this post! (and you don't have to send me a note back...LOL!)

JoAnne McPherson

Thank you for admitting that you always use a steam iron! I was beginning to think I was the only one out there who still did that. I found that blog over the weekend and loved it. I think we all have our little secrets. I also really appreciated the remark about not "judging" other's work. I always say nice things when people show their quilts!

Robyn B

I love this! It just proves we are not perfect and really who the heck wants to be. We all take shortcuts, so what, do what works for you. If there is no enjoyment in the process and the quilty police are always watching then why do it. Yes, I'm so sick of blogs where you have to jump through hoops to enter their contest, "like me on facebook, follow me on twitter and pinterest and to the koolaid...." I just give up and say it's not worth it. I'll go to the next blog. And don't feel you have to respond to my post :) my feelings will not be hurt. I am a big girl. LOL!!


Posts like this are exactly why I look forward to reading your blog so much!
I love to use steam & starch too, and have been told bugs will come and eat my quilts...oh, well. I never expect a response to a comment on any blog....you could spend to much of your life doing that. :-) Thanks for being honest and courageous.

Karen M

Commenting without the expectation of a reply.... ; )


Thanks for the laugh and the honesty... I can relate!


Thank you so much for this post. I am still a quilter in process. I don't sew a perfect 1/4 inch seam and often feel like I should stop quilting because of that. Thanks for sharing that you aren't perfect either!I am going to sew today and enjoy it. I also use a steam iron. Thanks for the comments about not judging each other's work. Great point. I don't always have a lot of money to buy quilt shop quality fabric and have to buy cheaper fabric. I think as long as you enjoy it do it.


I never wash fabric, use a steam iron and very seldom,hardly ever answer comments. Seems you're just like me.


Thanks for the laughs.


Good enough is good enough... check
No prewashing... check
Stop telling me I should sell my quilts (or offering to pay me $100 to make you a bed quilt)... check
STABLE (STash Accumulation Beyond Life Expectancy)... check
Online community getting me down... check and double check

Thanks so much for your post, and for the link to Tanesha's blog. The last item in particular has become a sticking point for me. I enjoyed blogging about quilting, but lately I haven't wanted to quilt at all, much less blog about it. I've felt more and more that there's an expectation from the blogging community that I just can't (or don't want to) live up to. Instead of saying "to heck with it, I'm doing what I want," I've stopped doing entirely.

As for replying to comments, when you get 5-15 comments on a post like I do, that's one thing. I do feel I should reply to them via email. But you receive so many comments that it's unrealistic to expect you to reply. I think anyone who follows your blog would be astonished if they DID receive a reply.

barb gibney

Carrie...you are just too cute! Myself as many many others can relate, but I'm not sure I could of said it as well. Thank-you for the most enjoyable read while enjoying my morning coffee!

P.S. most excited to hear that you agree with a lot of us out there who love our STEAM irons!! LOL

Linda P

I am completely crackin' up - probably not what you thought I'd do. I haven't been to Tanesha's post yet, but I'm sure I will be shaking my head "yes" to many things she has to say.... I secretly say these things in my head, especially about the peeps in my life and the ones I come across, that think I can whip them up something like on my next time upstairs, or on the amount of fabric in that upstairs loft, and won't the floor cave in, etc.... I enjoy what I do, and concur, they don't pay my bills!!!
I don't jump thru the hoops for anything any more, even in my boring, personal life. So much drama, some times - it's more enjoyable to be with my grandgirls and pretend, I'm their age - lol!
.... and I won't get started on the whole thing of texting and facebooking - whaaaaaa??? I love that there is no communications any more - I may just have to copy this blog post to give my family a sense of what I really feel - way to go!! But, please, don't stop blogging.... I'll miss you!! Don't feel the need to ever respond, I tried doing that on my birthday facebook posts, and thought I must be nuts, and of course, had to do all of them, for fear someone would get their feelings hurt - ackkk!!! L. xo


Love your honesty, openness, and humor!!! Your thoughts should be a reality check for all those quilt police officers out there, who by their self-righteousness attempt to take the fun out of quilting and blogging!You go girl! Love your blog and quilts! Just finished your Gentle Arts...and did it my way! Wish you could see it! BRAVO!!

Lisa D.

Thank you for an very entertaining post and a link to the post that inspired you. I practically pulled a muscle in my neck nodding in agreement!

Judith Oswald

Amen to your shared thoughts. I especially am frustrated with the advertising on blogs. In the past year I have been reading quilting blogs, I have noticed a huge change. I started to write one or two of my previously favorites that have gone to the dark side, but decided better to just keep my words unsaid. So thanks for sharing your views.

Nancy  in Utah

Ah Carrie, Love this post soooo much!!! Perfect 1/4" seam...what's that??? As for steam, it seems that the memo my brain received concerning "Pressing" versus "Ironing, never made it to my hands, so as much as truly love using steam, I had to give it up, because between the 1/4" seam issue and the distorted blocks from pressing (I use the term loosely) I was tossing more blocks than I was keeping. So now I dry iron, unless of course I have one of those stubborn blocks that must be steamed into submission, my iron is drier than the last cornbread I made to go with my hubby's homemade chilly. He bravely ate the cornbread by the way, crumbling it into his chili so he wouldn't break a tooth on it. *sigh*, Bless his heart, even after 45 years of marriage, he still tries not to hurt my little feelers, LOL. I have to add though, that I really am a good cook, I just forgot to set the timer and got involved in an episode of "Call the Midwife" ! Okay, Nuff said...Hugs to you and your mom and special scratches to Miss Rosie...
**Disclaimer** He is actually a better cook than I am because he LOVES to cook, but I did teach him everything he knows about cooking ... ummm (don't stand to close to me if you don't want to get hit by the lightning that's about to strike!)


I've read both blogs & I completely agree!! Previously, I thought using heavy steam was my little secret! I even replaced a fairly new steam iron a couple of years ago because it didn't get hot enough or make enough steam to satisfy me!!!! And, I'm pretty sure anyone buying stock in Mary Ellen's Best Press will get a good return on their investment because of the amount being sprayed on my fabric!! I also don't do "show and tell" at Guild because I don't want my skills, or lack thereof, to be 'judged!' When I retired I said I wanted to learn how to make quilts...for my own pleasure & lifelong love of sewing. Why is it assumed I will cheerfully hem pants & mend holes (not small holes, either) for others??? I didn't say I wanted to take in alterations work--I said I wanted to make quilts! Please don't feel you need to reply...this just gave me a chance to add to vent!!!

Mary C.

I'm glad Tanesha started this conversation. Sounds like a lot of us feel the same way. I get a kick out of random co-workers who want their pants hemmed. Um, no - I don't sew clothes - ever. And my sewing machine doesn't "go" unless there's a glass of wine nearby. My sewing room = my happy place. Hugs for Rosie - please keep blogging~!

Kyle Redente

Truly enjoyed your blog today. It was refreshing to hear that so many quilters quilt because they enjoy it and do what they do because it's what works best for them. I'm included!


I can relate to a lot of you say and can I add I never enter a give-away and actually try to avoid blogs that are sponsored openly or not (it does become evident after a little while). I don't have a local quilt community so blogs are my way of keeping up with what goes on and connect from time to time with other quilters through commenting so Thank You for blogging and please don't reply to this - it is totally unnecessary I just felt like adding my tuppence worth to a very refreshing post :-) I will now follow your link to what prompted this in the first place. Take care

Tanesha (CraftyGardenMom)

Carrie, great post and thanks for the shout out! Thanks for sharing your "dirty secrets" about quilting...it's refreshing don't you think? LOL.


I love this post, Carrie.

My biggest dirty little secret: I enjoy the process of piecing quilt tops but I don't always get around to quilting them. Who cares - seriously who cares! And, if someone chooses to keep track then they have too much time on their hands. LOL


You're a funny girl Carrie! I couldn't agree more -- well, maybe except for that bit about the pre-washing -- my mama taught me to pre-wash and you can't beat it out of me. I laugh at the people who decry our use of steam because they're starching, which produces steam, right? I Can't. Live. Without. My. Steam. And I'm still enjoying the online community, although I am tired of so many quilts that seem like they're thrown together just to get posts up. I want to see more quilts that took some real time and talent to make -- some real inspiration. {Says the person who's next posted quilt will be a slap-dash quilt LOL.}

Thanks for the fun read!


Great post! And great points. On the subject of the blogging community, I'd like to add one more point. Sometimes when I read blogs, some of the quilts are SO amazing that it has become an art form. I sit and drool over the computer screen at what someone can do with fabric and a sewing machine. The first time I attended a National Quilt show (as opposed to the local level), my buddy and I looked at each other and said "WE really aren't quilters!" It is truly overwhelming. Not that I compare, because I am a simple quilter, and I love traditional patterns. But I look at these quilts and think, "would someone really put that on their bed and sleep under it?" ;-)


It is all so true!!!
I guess I didn't realize that people who comment EXPECT a reply. Seriously? since when? When I send a comment to ANYONE (even my sister) I don't expect an answer. When I give a gift to a new mother I write on the card NO NEED TO SEND A THANK YOU! I think they have enough on their plates without that hassle. :) Of course I do get a picture of teh baby on the quilt...


I LOVE your comments!!! Thank you for not being perfect!


In my opinion, there are "art quilts" and "traditional quilts." I appreciate and admire both, but frankly, I prefer traditional, utilitarian quilts that are thrown on beds and USED. They are not perfect and were intended to be used and worn out; they are scrappy and sometimes wild, but they are lovely.

I refuse to be dictated to by the "quilt police"; I will do what I do because I prefer to do it that way.

Don't even get me started on blogs that clutter their pages with advertisement. . .


Amen and well said! (And you don't have to respond to this comment.)


It's nice to know that you and all the ladies who've posted feel as I do. I was raised w/a steam iron in my hand, so the thought of not pressing each seam sewn is totally foreign to me. I USED to do alterations but my family seems to forget that is past tense. I enjoy a beer while my quilt buddy likes her glass of wine when we sew. It's a HOBBY and hobbies are supposed to be fun. I agree w/the comments about blogs and have actually read a few lately that have become vicious. Why?? I don't read those now. Love your blog and I never knew that bloggers commented back so you're in the clear w/me. Hurrah for almost but not quite 1/4" seams. If it fits together I'm golden.


It looks like you found a tactful way to say what lots of us are thinking!

I, too, am a starch user. And a heavy steamer. And I owe that to YOU! Remember your post about starching every piece of fabric, no matter how small, so that it doesn't shrink? Best advice ever. Even my longarmer appreciates it.

I do realize that sponsorship might help to defray the cost of some blogs. But it becomes all to obvious when 6 bloggers are all "loving" one particular collection all at the same time. And I refuse to enter all those ridiculous contests. I'd actually rather spend money on fabric that I LOVE instead of having a big stash of uglies.

On comments - I seriously never expect a reply, but it is always a really nice treat when I receive one. My gripe is the bloggers who get 0-3 comments and then write a post about how they're way too busy to reply. Because then I think that maybe I'm too busy to bother reading. All they really need to do is turn comments off and that will solve the problem.


Thank you so much for this post, it's so true.
I just sew for myself or really a few special longtime friends. I sew because I enjoy it and that the only reason. Sometimes I feel bad and perhpas a bit left out because I don't have a blog BUT I don't have time for it and I feel uncomfortable about a own blog.
I think my piecing is good enough for me. I always press my seams open although some people shake thier heads and tell me I can't do this. Well, I can:-)
My quilting skills aren't the best but I do my best and I have a 28 yo domestic sewing machine and not some fancy stuff. So perhaps my quilting is simple but it's mine.
There're a lot of good blogs I love and visit daily. And of course I love a good giveaway. But there're blogs I visit just once or for a giveaway and then never again because there're just not my taste.
BTW I love your blog and I'm always happy when you reply to my comments but you don't have to:-)
Have a great day, Hildy



Mary ann

My hero! yes, my stash is big and I keep buying but it's my money and my hobby. I love steam, makes my blocks look great and my piecing a little better. I make quilts for those I want too, my time, my choice.
I don't have a blog because I don't have enough time to do everything I want too as it is. Read blogs I love, almost always comment because if you take the time to share I certainly can take the time to say "Thank you" or "I love it". If you email, great but I feel like owe you the comment not vice versa. I am still taken back by how rude some people are in the biosphere...where are their manners.
Lots of pets for Rosie and Hi to your Mom.


Hear, hear!!! Well said xx


I read Tanesha's blog and yours. I must say that I agree wholeheartedly! WOW!

I am the "steam queen".
I am offended when people ask me to do alterations.
DO NOT EVEN ASK ME TO MAKE YOU A QUILT! EVER! If I want you have one of my quilts, you will have one.
Perfection is nice, but not always attainable. Oh well!
As for art quilts, I appreciate the work that went into them, but they truly leave me cold.
Also, these "Modern Quilts" don't do much for me either. How many more ways are there to combine large squares and rectangles? But it does get young people interested in quilting, and that's a good thing.
I sewed a block upside down into a top recently, and really had to ponder whether or not I would un-sew and turn it around. I did.
I do pre-wash because I don't want to deal with the preservatives in fabric, and I do starch sometimes.

My personal pet peeve:

I have a long-arm. It is for my own use. I don't care to and will not quilt for others. I do not have to justify owning a long-arm. Or my stash either! If you want to use my long-arm to finish your quilt, come on over, and I'll give you a lesson and get you started!

Glad to know that I am not alone!
Enjoy your day! Carol


You make me laugh. Thank you for being you!

You are an inspiration to us all!

Jennifer G

I enjoy your blog and patterns. I started my own blog almost a year ago, but lately I had thought... do I need to do a giveaway or something? Now I know I can just blog for the reason I started it ... me. And my quilt history. I hope that anyone who stumbles upon it enjoys reading some of my posts, but it is more for me and and outlet to talk about a hobby I have come to love.


I loved your post, Carrie! And I'm so glad you aren't a perfectionist! My socks are in my drawer too and I'm good with that! If I took time to make everything neat and nice, living in a house with 6 males, I'd NEVER get any sewing done. My motto is: "It's good enough!" (that goes for food, laundry, bathrooms, flower beds, etc, etc.) That works for me!


Great post and I can so relate to what you've said. I LOVE steam too!!! No need to reply :-)

Elizabeth E.

Thank you for that part about blogging. I feel the same as you--and it's said better than I think I ever could. I try to keep a clear eye about why I do it--to share my love of quilting. Period.

Somedays I wonder if I could quit that English teachery job of mine with so much grading, and sell some patterns on the side, but then I look around and the things I want to design and make, you and others already are making and selling them. And I can figure out just about everything else. So I guess I'll keep my day job.

Thanks for the other true confessions. And no, you don't have to reply to this!


Thanks to everyone who is having this conversation. I'm breathing a sigh of relief that it's not just me ;-) Many times I wonder if I'm alone in some of my quilting thoughts. I guess not! I enjoyed reading the comments!


You are awesome. This is awesome.

I expect a reply to this reply. Pronto!


Thanks for posting what many of us are thinking! I always truly enjoy your posts and this one was especially fun to read.:)


Thanks for a great "laugh out loud" post!


Great post, I find myself agreeing with everything you said (except I do pre-wash fabric because of allergies, but I don't iron it, I save that for when I've stitched it)
I'm finding myself feeling really blah about blogs (and blogging) at the moment, so I just dip in and out as I feel like it. I reply to comments on my blog, but you get so many comments that you would be spending all your time answering some days :)

Diane Matthews

I love reading your blog! I came across it after checking our Sinta's blog (I used to be in the same guild and know her from the local quilt shop) It makes me feel like I'm hearing the news from a friend. Keep it up. Hugs to you, your Mom and especially to Rosie. And you do not have to respond to my comment! Life should be easy. Especially in summertime.

Ila Migut

OMG! You deserve flowers, candy and a gift! Thank you *so* much for telling the way it is for me (and I bet a lot of us)!

quiltmom anna

I saw the other post as well and you both made me laugh and celebrate the seldom written truths about blogging and quilting. Your random drawers made me smile- I have drawers like that too- Just in case you think you are the only one with random drawers here is something that I hope will make you smile.. years ago, my MIL went to help a cousin clean out her house for moving. She found that the cousin had labeled a drawer- pieces of string too short to use- and another drawer- dead batteries ( this was before the time that eco disposal of batteries was the thing to do)... This always makes me grin when I think of some of the junk that gets tossed in my drawers.
I always enjoy reading your blog Carrie and so appreciate your sense of humor and joie de vivre about life.


Thank you! You make me feel better about my own quilting/sewing imperfections. I managed to sew a zipper correctly into a simple pouch last night, and it was a major victory! A scant/perfect quarter-inch continues to elude me, although I've gotten better. And my cutting "skills" - I try hard, but sometimes it's just not pretty. You've brightened my day considerably.


And I thought it was just me that felt that way about some of the blogs, blog hops, etc....no matter how hard I try I will never/always have a perfect 1/4" seam, and I tell my husband I have enough material/kits to last three life times, but I'm still going to buy more, that way he'll be able to have a huge garage sale when I'm gone and see lots of women and make a few bucks! I think the wine and sewing sounds like a great mixture to me!


I am a knitter who quilts a little, and NO, I will NOT spend up to $30 on yarn and I-can't-even-count-how-many hours of my limited free time knitting a pair of socks for you. The fact that you would ask me that tells me that you couldn't even begin to appreciate them. And NO, I do not sell them---I can't compete with Old Navy or WalMart, nor do I want to. (You don't have to answer my post---I am happy just to have a chance to vent among people who will understand.) I do read your blog, however because your quilts are beautiful and I appreciate the tips you post. I also enjoy reading about dear Rosie and your teaching adventures.

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